Tuesday, October 12, 2010

Dating 101...Quit Kissing Ass & Ask Questions.

I am just so sick of this shit I feel like I am basking in the presence of ignorance and mediocrity. When women are looking for a man it seems to me in 2010 women are so fucking desperate to be with someone they are willing to accept whatever treatment these men are dishing out. Women don't demand any requirements or mandatory prerequisites for whatever potential man they consider dating. Quit kissing ass and ask questions. Lucky for me I was raised by my very wise grandmother and not a 30 year old mama still trying to "hit the club". She told me the small things that needs to be said, done and checked before allowing any man to come into your life. I used to ask ALL questions before getting involved with any man, and some answers I would accept at face value but other things like age, marital status, credit score, verification of a high school diploma, number of children and criminal I need documentation to prove what you telling me. I paid $49.99 online and got all the info I needed to feel comfortable in beginning a relationship. My grandmother told me that when you are dating a man the woman is in control. I have said this before...it is up to YOU if he holds your hand, touches your leg, starts a sexual conversation, puts his arm around you with "the yawn move" or anything else. Why do we feel as women that we have to sit mute and allow the man to do or say whatever the hell he wants to do and we just sit there and smile?! Hell no. There should also be no sex involved when you are dating a person because dick clouds reality and judgment. You are supposed to be getting to know this person inside and out and if all you can think about is the way he hit it from the back then what IS important will probably take a back seat position to the premature sex life that has erupted. Some women are saved and active in the body of Christ and feel that they really have a hard time dating because men some men will not accept abstinence in a relationship. Okay, I'm going to tread slowly with this one. So...LOL...it seems when a women has had sex before or even has kids and then decides after she has been saved and decides that she wants to give her heart to Christ or Allah or whatever God she serves that she is wrong from abstaining from sex. If the man respects you he will value your dedication to God on what you are doing. He is a selfish bastard if he tries to pressure you or make you feel bad for the stand that you are taking to be closer to God. I was a virgin until I was engaged at 20 years old. My husband and I lost our virginity to each other and I thank God for the type of husband that I have. As far as sex goes when it does began to happen in your relationship...don't allow just ANY man to play in yo ass. Giving a man sex is not mandatory it is your choice. Men always wanting you to do "special things" in the bedroom when they aren't doing anything extra OUTSIDE the bedroom. How do you expect to get a TRICK when you are not a TREAT?!?? You don't do anything "just because" or make your woman feel like the luckiest girl in the world. If you have to wonder why you are with that fool then you DO NOT need to be with him. Another thing, demand respect!! Don't let a man pull up to pick you up and blow a damn horn in front of your house, only HOES are horn trained and I'm pretty sure you don't live in a hoe house so make that fool come to the door and knock!! If Jesus even comes to the door and knock what makes that sorry ass fool so special?! You also should not allow a man to call u last minute for ANYTHING. Have enough respect for yourself for him to make "plans" for you..actually knowing days in advance that you are going somewhere. Don't be a damn booty call. When you do go on date make a daytime date. Men who only take you out late at night either want some ass or don't want to be seen with you in the daytime. Its a hard pill to swallow but its the truth. Men will only do what you let them do..quit "letting" ...be a real woman and get a backbone.
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Monday, October 4, 2010

Raising Black Children in 2010

Now when i initially wanted to blog about this I was going to blog about "The Education In America", explaining how we need to get off out asses as parents and not just allow your child's teacher to be their only source of education's in their lives. But then I started talking to myself. I said "Self!" and myself said "Huh?" and I told myself that I need to take an extra step in describing how I go from day to day raising my Black Children in America in 2010. I think that I am lucky because I am married to one of the strongest black men that I have ever met in my WHOLE life. I was lucky as a child because even though I grew up without a father and a mother I had help from my family. I was an orphan and was raised by everybody ELSE in my family. I have a piece of almost everyone of my older family members in me because each person instilled something in my character and made me into the person that I am now. When I had homework it was mandatory that I showed it to someone to check it and it had to be done before 6pm. I am going to list some of the things that I know will make your house less confrontational with respectful children and well educated.

First of all being that I was raised by my grandmother I am a 29 year old OLD SCHOOL parent. My children have rules and they will fear me before they fear God. There is no conversations or negotiations when you are the child and I am the parent. That doesn't mean that I don't allow my children to have a voice or to express themselves but YOU WILL do it respectfully. Everything has a time and a place. Alot of people think just because you whip your children they are going to end up being perfect children and will learn the lesson. But, just like with a dog...if he poops in the house...you can smack the hell out of him but if you do not rub his nose in that SHIT (literally) then he will think you are beating him for no reason. You have to explain before and after the reason why they are getting reprimanded. They will not know if you don't tell them, and making them aware of the things that are unacceptable will keep them from doing it again unless they are just out of control. You have to have unmovable and permanent rules that they won't even think about asking for wiggle room because somethings should be mandated. Doing this will instill order and organization in their inner core and in their character as adults and they will eventually do the same with their children. Trust me I know. LOL

Start young with your children doing education things with them so they will look at education as being a FUN event!Encourage your children! Praise them...over and over and over again !! You have to be an advocate for your child's education because the public school system just wants to get them in and out with getting funding for them which is why they PUSH for every student to be present on student count day. Raising a black boy in America is different from raising a black girl in America because they both need the same love and they have certain things they HAVE to learn besides boys learning to pee and the birds and the bees talk with the girl when she gets her period. They need to learn what it means to be a black man and a black woman and the best way they can get confirmation is by seeing you as an example.

Doing homework is one of those things where there should be absolutely NO wiggle room. My kids laugh at me because I have been homeschooling them ever since they were 3 years old. When they come home to MY HOUSE they have the homework their teacher has given and then they have HOME work which is the work I have for them to do. I go the extra mile for my children because sacrifices have to be made on my account in order to get them to where I want them to be. I refuse to put them in a private school for them to get a better education. Don't throw the public schools away...there are some good teachers out there and if you happen to get a teacher that has their "Tenyear" already and doesn't care then you give that BITCH a run for her money. I'm talking about asking to see her lesson a month in advance and you get online and look to see if what she is teaching the kids in the grade equivalent to other school districts. Make her/him hate to see yo ass coming. For those of you who are not aware of what it means when a teacher gets their "Tenyear"...that means that after a certain number of years teachers have a permanent job forever and they have 100% job security and doesn't have to worry about proving anything to anyone because their job is secure so they can basically just show up and give out work and then put their iPod in their ears and that would be their prerogative. With my kid's teachers I make myself available financially and physically. So it is not like I am just this "Dragon Bitch" that is just mean to all my kid's teachers. But they know I am not to be fucked with even if we do have a good relationship. I am raising the next president of the United States of America, the next State Senator, the next heart surgeon, the next CEO of a fortune 500 company....I am raising celebrities. Yeah, I have ALL of that hope for my twins and you should too. Do you?

Another thing you have to do is be PRESENT. I don't give a damn if you have to get a different job to make yourself present in their school and in sports activities for them so they will succeed. Never allow excuses because they are just like an asshole..everybody's got one. I am just so sick of these sorry ass parents not being ALL UP IN their kid's business. Moniter internet access, go get the program that records what they are doing on the internet. Are you snooping?! Why is that even a topic? You are a parent, it is your responsibility to keep them away from hurt, harm and danger. Reduce TV to only weekends. Hannah Montana can kiss my ass. There is no logical why children should watch TV during the week. Make rules with them that is going to better their lives. Now being that I cut out TV during the week that means that we do educational things and fun things that are physical activities outside so they will not fall in the 70% of overweight children in the US. Even if you go for a walk with your kids and count how many trees you see there and on the way back and give a prize for the correct answer. Make things like that fun. You know what? when the weekend comes around, they will be so used to not watching TV that they might not even have the urge. Kids should only be able to do what you ALLOW them to do.

You should not be "strict" without explaining why you do what you do. I wake them up an hour early in the morning and read with them. Why do I do that? They have to be more advanced as black children to be able to be accepted in this world even though they are 8 years old. I have had to teach and have a conversation with them that white parents don't have to have. I had to explain what slavery was. I had to explain why the color of their skin can still prevent them from getting something that they might deserve. I had to explain affirmative action. I had to give the definition of racism. I had to tell them where the word NIGGER came from and why I never want to hear that damn word in my house. These are conversations I have been having with them since the age of 6 years old. You say that's too young...my children are intelligent, you could have a full length conversation with my kids about racism and be surprised by their answers. I am raising black children in America in 2010.

My daughter and my son knows what rape is. They know that some adults and even younger kids have a problem with "touching people in private parts" I have explained that in the most PG and G way that I knew how, but I need to educate them to know what it is and how not to put themselves in a predicament where something like that can happen. I moniter the type of clothes she wears and there are certain things she can't do like eat a popsicle outside or bent over with her butt facing the street or walk out of the bathroom without being fully dressed. You may think that is too much but I don't want to give anybody any ideas. You may think that is too extreme but I bet JonBenet' Ramsey's parents wished they went a different route with their daughter. Truth is brutal but it will always be the truth.

We have to do better as parents. I will leave you with this quote.

"Excuses are monuments of nothingness. They build bridges to nowhere. Those who use these tools of incompetence are masters of nothingness. Therefore there are no excuses."

Get it together.
Angie~(Peaches)

Friday, October 1, 2010

SPOIL YOUR MAN IF HE IS GOOD TO YOU.

I GUESS I JUST WRITE ON HERE WHEN I HAVE SOMETHING IN MY HEART TO GIVE THAT HASN'T BEEN GIVEN. I AM THE TYPE OF PERSON THAT IF I LOVE YOU I WILL DO ANYTHING FOR YOU...HELL I DON'T EVEN HAVE TO OFFICIALLY LOVE YOU I JUST HAVE TO CARE A LITTLE BIT AND I'LL GIVE YOU MY LAST. BUT UNFORTUNATELY IN LIFE PEOPLE DON'T GIVE BACK WHAT YOU DISH OUT. I HAVE ALOT OF LOVE TO GIVE AND I HAVE DEALT WITH A LOT OF HEARTBREAK FROM A FEW PEOPLE IN GENERAL. WHEN I GOT MARRIED I HAD TO WORK ON ALOT OF THINGS WITHIN MYSELF TO MAKE THE UNION BETWEEN MY HUSBAND AND I WORK OUT.......ALOT OF TIMES PEOPLE THINK THAT IT'S JUST THE OTHER PERSON WHO NEEDS TO DO ALL THE WORK BUT WHEN IT COMES DOWN TO IT IF BOTH PEOPLE AREN'T WILLING TO COME TOGETHER IN THE MIDDLE THEN SOMEONE IS EITHER GONNA FEEL LIKE THEY ARE WORKING HARDER THAN THE OTHER IN THE END. NOW, WHEN IT CAME TO MY MARRAIGE I HAD TO WORK ON NOT COMPARING MY HUSBAND TO GUYS THAT I HAVE "DEALT" WITH IN THE PAST. TRYING TO LOVE SOMEONE WHO DIDN'T LOVE ME THE SAME WAY AND AND GETTING DISSAPOINTED OF HOPES OF SOMETHING SIMPLE TURNING INTO SOMETHING THAT THE OTHER PERSON WASN'T INTERESTED IN DOING. I MEAN.....ANYBODY CAN LOOK AT ME AND SEE THAT I'M CUTE......I'M A BIG GIRL BUT I'M SEXY AS HELL......I WEAR CUTE ASS CLOTHES, I WEAR PERFUME , MAKEUP AND EYELASHES AND STILETTOS ......DON'T THINK THAT I FEEL THAT I HAVE TO DO ALL THIS TO BE ANGIE BUT THAT IS JUST WHO I AM. I GET MY HAIR DONE ALL THE TIME, I GET MY NAILS AND MY TOES DONE MATCHING EACH OTHER EVERYTIME I GO TO THE NAIL SHOP.........I MEAN THAT'S JUST ME !!!!! SO IN SAYING ALL THAT.......I WAS CONFUSED IN WHY THE OTHER GUY WASN'T FEELING ME LIKE I WAS FEELING HIM.......I MEAN DAMN...!!!!!! SO I HAD TO BRING ALL THIS AND TRY TO NOT COMPARE MY HUSBAND TO THE GUYS THAT I HAVE DEALT WITH IN THE PAST. I HAVE ALOT OF FRIENDS WHO ARE LONELY AND PROBABLY WILL BE BITTER FOR A LONG TIME BECAUSE THEY MAKE THE NEW MAN PAY FOR THEIR PREVIOUS GUY'S MISTAKE. I DIDN'T WANT TO BE THAT WOMAN. I LOVE LAUGHTER, COOKING FOR MY MAN, RUNNING BATH WATER AFTER HE COMES HOME FROM WORK AND DESPITE THE FACT THAT I'M A FREAK I CAN'T SEE NOT HAVING SEX FOR MORE THAT 3 DAYS SO.......NAH.....SEX ISN'T WHAT I'M ALL ABOUT BUT I LIKE IT ALOT AND IF I PUT THE WEIGHT OF ANOTHER MAN ON THE NEW ONE THEN IT WILL NOT LAST VERY LONG. NOW DON'T THINK THAT I'M JUST THIS DUMB B_____H WHO DOES ANY AND EVERYTHING FOR MY MAN AND HE'S NOT DOING ANYTHING FOR ME. I ONLY DO FOR HIM WHAT I TRULY KNOW IN MY HEART THAT HE WILL RECIPROCATE FOR ME. WHEN I LOVE I LOVE HARD , WHEN I HATE , I HATE HARD........ONLY A SELECTED FEW KNOWS HOW CRAZY I CAN BE ND MY HUBBY KNOWS MORE THAN ANYBODY ELSE. BUT I JUST WANT EVERYBODY TO KNOW THAT YOU ARE NOT A PUNK IF YOU BREAK DOWN AND LOVE SOMEBODY.....BECAUSE LOVING IS WHERE HAPPINESS LIES. HURT PEOPLE- HURT PEOPLE. WHEN YOU ARE HURTING YOU HURT OTHERS BECAUSE YOU ATTAIN NO HAPPINESS. THE HARDEST THING FOR A WOMAN TO HAVE IS A GOOD MAN WHEN SHE HAS HAD NOTHING BUT BAD ONES BECAUSE SHE WILL ONLY ASSUME WHEN SHE IS USED TO. I AM LUCKY. MY HUSBAND IS MY BEST FRIEND, MY LOVER AND A GOOD REASON TO SMILE. THAT'S WHY HE GETS SPOILED BECAUSE HE SPOILS ME.

Can I get an AMEN ?!?!?

CAN U FILL THIS IN !?!?!?!!?!?!?LOL
Body: First giving ______ and ______to God, who is the _______ of my life, I'd like
to say I'm glad to be in the ________ of the Lord one mo' time. Cause
he brought me from a _____long_____. I coulda been ______, sleeping in
my________, but God is_______ all the ________, and all the_____,
God is_______. He's a _______ over troubled _______. He's a mother to
the ________, and a_________to the __________, a doctor in a ________
room, and a ___________ in the courtroom! (smile) He's the_______
of the valley, a bright and ________star He got up early one
__________ mo'ning, with all __________ in his _______. Pray for me that I grow
_________ in the Lord." Also, as you look in your church_______,
under the special ________ please keep in your prayer _______ Sista
Buela-___ Jenkins who will be having her ________ surgery this
week.
And while you give your tithes and _______ we humbly ask that you
contribute to the church_______ fund and we will be celebrating the
pastor's fifteenth________ so anybody please who serves on the
_______ board please meet behind the ________ following_________. And the
women's auxiliary will be selling ________ dinners for $7.00 a _____ along
with the youth ______ who will be having their annual ______ sale
to help fund their trip to the national Youth ministry _______ in
Tennessee this summer. Parents please be _______that vacation_______school
begins June __, please have your child________ by May 13.

Now, before we turn it over to the _____ Team, ___ to your ________ right quick and say ________: God is Good?? ___ ___ ____!!...And All the Time?? ___ __ ____!!

How To Guarantee.... Not To Get Stuck With A Man With A Small Dick.

You know, it would be good if the inches of a man's penis could be posted right on his forehead like they speak of in the book of Revelations during the Apocalypse, because I think having a small penis is truly the "sign of the beast" and you need to be recognized and put on blast. Unfortunately, you have to make sure you don't get caught with a small penis man. There are many ways you can do this but you can't be over analytical when doing what is required. C'mon Son! #1 You DO NOT fall in love with a man without seeing his penis first. #2 If you are a virgin and a devout christian or muslim you need to walk into the bathroom by "accident" you make sure that fool don't have a man who is pissing on his balls. #3 You do not go on more than 3 dates with a man without asking to see his penis first. Why? If you don't ask you won't know. You can't always reply on "penis bumps" some men stuff their draws just like women stuff their bras. Real talk. The reason why you can't go more than 3 dates without seeing the dick, is because if you fall in love or start getting feelings for him you might let the small dick "slide" if he "treats you right" ...um...hell no. You should not put mileage on your pussy with "pity sex". Pity sex is when you have sex with a man when you really don't want to and you FAKE the whole way but its still consensual. There are some "nice small dick men" who needs love but I'm not the one that's going to give it to them. Over 30% of women in America are sexually unsatisfied. What statistic do you want to fall into? Me...I am in the statistic of women who are getting their "Back Blew Out". Real talk. Me personally I think all men who are not circumcised do not deserve oral sex unless it is worth your time..like 8 or 9 inches worth..and please don't let it be skinny and long but FAT and long. I need my pussy walls stretched. They have all that extra meat...you gotta pull skin back just to get to the fuckin' head?! Hell naw. You can keep that! UNLESS it is worth your time. When my husband and I was on our 2nd date I asked to see his dick and he was surprised because I was a virgin at the time. He laughed at me and pulled it out when I told him why I wanted to see it. He showed me and ...I married him for a reason *wink*! When the man will pull out his dick with no hesitation, its a good sign because he probably has a good size penis. I have no tolerance for small dicks and you shouldn't either. Kindergarten penis should be saved for the percentage of black men that go to white women. I remember when I was at Jackson State University in Mississippi and one of my hall mates got married and called me at like 2am..."Angie!! You were right!! I should have looked!!" She screamed while sniffing and crying at the same time without introducing herself but strangely I knew exactly who it was. Long story~short...her daddy was a big pastor from where she was from and she was scared to check the dick like I told her. She was a virgin and thought she would be sinning against God by just looking being that she was a virgin. Now, years later she is not even married because she said the dick felt like a TAMPON. Sex is not everything but it is an important part in a marriage if you want a healthy marriage. I don't know about you.... but I want to express my love and affection for my husband by sliding up and down his penis while bussing on top of him while all my juices run down his dick while riding him at FULL FORCE. Now how the hell you gone do that if the shit falls out every two minutes? Exactly. Why waste money?...Waste time?...A whole wedding?...When all you gotta do is ASK to see his penis by the 3rd date. Checking the dick will also reduce crime rates as well because let's just say you get ready to have sex and he gets naked and you refuse due to him having a deflated balloon for a penis and his lil dick ass rapes you? ...Hopefully I have once again given you something to think about. Check the Dick!!!!!! Trust me.

Angie~(Peaches)
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